Do You Work Too Much or Talk Too Much?
We’ve all met that person who makes an impression on you the first time you meet them. But then you spend more time with them and realize you like them a bit less. Spend enough time with them and you may even realize they are nothing like you first thought. Perhaps someone comes to your mind as you even consider this thought. I remember years ago getting the chance to meet an author who I held in high regard (and read everything he wrote, sometimes multiple times) only to discover that I didn’t like him or want to spend time with him after I met him in person.
Contrast that with the person who may underwhelm you when you meet them but then keeps intriguing you somehow. Maybe a friend of yours speaks highly of them or you know them by reputation and you’re trying to figure out what others see in them. Then you start to see it yourself little by little each time you’re with them. The longer you know them the more you like them. Perhaps someone comes to your mind in this category too.
I bet you view these two types of people very differently.
I want to be the second type of person (which is made somewhat easier for me by the fact that I can tend to be awkwardly introverted when meeting new people and therefore struggle to wow anyone at first impression). But more than that, I’m drawn to people who continue to show you a greater depth of character, intellect, personality, and perspective as you get to know them more. I want to be that for others as well.
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